Loneliness and Its Impact on Kids

Over the years many of my friends have read about and experienced loneliness first-hand. We have put together some of our thoughts, observations, and insights to share with readers on the HealUnited website. 

Edie Hand
EdieHand.com 

We must view Loneliness as temporary. Not permanent. It’s a transition that can actually transform us if we keep a few thoughts in mind.

1. Focus on what gives you energy and then be intentional to sprinkle your day with intervals of energy-boosting activities such as dancing to a favorite song, going for a walk outside, or joining an online fitness support group such as HEAL. Loneliness is an energy zapper. It’s up to us to be proactive by checking in on activities that fuel us and minimize the ones that drain us.

2. Loneliness is more about feeling and not an identity.
To say I AM lonely is different than saying I FEEL lonely. That means we need to be aware of our self-talk. Don’t make the mistake of making Loneliness your identity. Just say “I feel lonely.” Then ask yourself why. Then think about simple actions to take to change it.

3. Be what you want. In other words, if you want a friend, be a friend. If you want a phone call make a phone call. Do something to Move the Needle. It is better to GIVE than to receive.

4. See Loneliness as the gift of time to invest in something you want to improve. Take a class, Watch learning videos. Maybe explore a hobby or a new business. Invest in yourself rather than feel sorry for yourself.

5. Stop waiting for permission to stop being lonely. No one is going to rescue you from loneliness. You must realize YOU have the power to be your own Super Hero. But also realize you might have to first work on self-esteem. Rather than focusing on loneliness . . .  focus on self-care and self-improvement.